GUEST BLOGGER: MANUELA BARCELOS
Manuela is the ESL/Academic Skills Specialist in the OAS. When she is not working, she enjoys spending time with family, leisurely dinners with friends, and keeping up with all the NBC Chicago episodes.
“A rose by any other name would smell as sweet” – as sweet as the chocolate you buy for yourself
Some years ago I went to dinner with a female friend on Valentine’s Day. When we walked in the door, the hostess was seating patrons – mostly couples- and handing them a rose. We were seated but didn’t get a rose. Once the dinner rush was over, the hostess made her way around the restaurant to double-check that everyone – everyone but us apparently – had received a rose. Of course we were surrounded by couples on this occasion, as expected, and while we laughed off being shunned by the hostess, we also questioned why we didn’t get one. It’s possible we could’ve been a same-sex couple and even if we weren’t, were we not rose worthy because we weren’t a couple? Either way, it was discriminatory so we left with a bad taste in our mouths (though the food was reeeeeally good) and made a pact to never return – no matter how good the filet mignon was!
It’s seems that the Valentine’s pressure to be part of a plus-one has mounted over the years. Santa has barely hung up his suit before engagement commercials take over the airwaves and stores stock up on Valentine’s décor and gifts. I recently read that the traffic on dating sites triples in the weeks leading to Valentine’s Day. Oh, I can hear the soothing sounds of John Legend singing, “Love me quickly, quickly…like the world’s about to end, baby, quickly.”
What’s with all the pressure?
Aristophanes, the Greek playwright, told a mythical story in which he described how humans once looked. Humans used to have 2 heads, 4 legs, and 4 arms. In essence, 2 conjoined bodies. When humans became negligent and failed to worship the gods, we were punished by Zeus who cut us in half. We have since been left with a void and wander about aimlessly searching for our other half.
Ok, so that mythical story might explain where the pressure comes from in our quest for a “better half.”
If you find yourself succumbing to the pressure, here are some tips to help alleviate it.
- Laughter is the best medicine: Watch a comedy flick or your favorite stand up comedian. Laughter reduces stress and helps with immunity. And it’s heart healthy – how appropriate for Valentine’s Day!
- Treat yourself: Get that sparkly thing you’ve had your eye on or that new gaming console you’ve been meaning to buy.
- Don’t compare yourself to others: Just because people are paired-off, it doesn’t mean they are happy. It’s important to work on being happy with yourself first. Just like mama says, better alone than in bad company.
- Get the feel good flavor of chocolate: Chocolate releases endorphins to the brain and makes you feel good!
- Buy yourself that rose: Don’t wait in vain for the hostess to come around.
In other words, you can make it the day of the year that you set aside to take extra special care of yourself.
“Be good to yourself ‘cause nobody else has the power to make you happy.” ~ George Michael
Happy Valentine’s Day!
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1. When your DWC professor gives the essay ahead of time.
2. When the line at Dunkin Donuts goes past the bookstore.
3. When you go to bed before 2am.
4. When classmates brag about how easy the final was.
5. When you attend a study session and know all the answers.
6. When you find an open seat in Club Phil.
7. When you start talking about the final with other students in the class and you realize you did not get the same answers.
8. When the highlight of your day is the free food from BOP’s study breaks.
9. When you walk out of your last final.
Best of luck with finals! Love, OAS
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Many thanks to Mark Correia ’14, ’15G, Erinn Miles ’16, and Melissa Sheil ’16 for their suggestions and personal experiences!
It is that time of the semester where there is excitement in the air and I’m not talking about our basketball team. Students are starting the interviewing process for various clubs and positions on campus. So whether you want to be an Orientation Leader, a Writing Tutor or an RA, please remember the following advice….
Social Media Image
This one can be tricky, but be aware of what your Twitter/Instagram says about you (even if it is blocked). Tweeting about how wasted you got on a snow day is not a good look – for any position on-campus. In a few years, you will graduate and look for a job so start thinking about your brand now. If you put up goofy videos on YouTube, take them down. That meme about Trump that you think is funny (but also somewhat racist), take it down. Tweeting about your annoying professor may be hilarious to your friends, but how does it look to an administrator looking to fill a position?
Group Interviews – With Friends or Strangers?
For group interviews, there are 5-6 other students all vying for the same spot and then there are a few current members asking questions and writing down your responses – it can be super intimidating. Most students claim that it is better to interview with people they don’t know (as opposed to fighting over a spot with their friends) but the choice is yours. Would you feel more or less comfortable highlighting your accomplishments (or failures) with your friends? Also, some students claim that it’s best to sign up for the last group interview time so you can make a final impression right before decisions are made. I don’t know how much truth there is to that, but I’ll pass that tip along.
While other students are talking, be careful to listen and not mentally zone out. Pay attention to other students responses and look happy to be interviewing for the position- it says a lot about how you work in a team and how engaged you will be in the position. And if another student answers a question poorly, try not to make a face or roll your eyes.
While this may seem obvious, be sure to really prepare. You will be asked tough questions (How do you respond to a resident that has been drinking?) so the more you think about your responses, the more calm and prepared you will be. Write down your thoughts on your leadership style, what strengths you bring to an organization, etc. Also, do a quick google search for Student Leadership Interview Questions to start thinking of how you would answer those questions.
Often times, with group interviews you get to select a time. When you sign up for that time, be sure to write it down in your planner/phone so you don’t forget it. Missing your interview is a big no-no, but I’ve seen it happen.
Do not be afraid to showcase your achievements. The key is to do so without sounding overconfident (this is where it is important to do the prep work). Most of the positions you will be interviewing are positions of leadership, and so you need to show that during your interview. While it’s normal to get nervous, be sure to speak up!
What are your best strategies for a successful group interview?
Many thanks to Mark Correia ’14, ’15G, Erinn Miles ’16, and Melissa Sheil ’16 for their suggestions and personal experiences!... MORE
GUEST BLOGGER: McKENZIE TAVELLA, ’18
My name is Mckenzie Tavella and I am from Fairfield, Connecticut. I am a sophomore at Providence College and am an English: Creative Writing and Psychology double major. Some of my favorite things are Harry Potter, both the series and the films, Marvel Superheroes, and sketching Disney cartoons. I love music, art and writing. However, more than anything, I love dogs.
I have a proposition to offer – I believe that second semester should be renamed to sick semester. Is it me, or does it seem like every single student gets sick at least once second semester? Of course, it is flu season, and sinus infection season, and laryngitis, and common cold; I could go on and on. I have been disease-ridden with at least two sinus infections during both of my spring semesters at Providence College so far. However, a perk of repeatedly getting sick is that I am now an expert at the “sick semester” in college. I am going to share my secret to success of sickness with you, but you have to trust that I know what I am talking about, even if they seem a little wacky. Also, if you don’t do them all, it’s no longer full proof.
Okay, the first thing that you have to do is drink orange juice constantly. By constantly, I mean multiple glasses a day. Also, the orange juice in Ray is not real orange juice, but simply water with orange flavoring. Purchase a bottle of orange juice from Alumni or Dunkin Donuts. Next, once you get bored of orange juice, switch to water. You need to have at least four bottles each day, and that’s when you aren’t sick.
The next task might seem a little gross, but here it goes- don’t be afraid to blow your nose. First off, no one likes a “sniffler,” especially during a quiz or exam. Don’t keep the bad, yucky – let’s just call it “stuff” – in your system. Now this one might seem surprising but stay away from cough drops, they don’t work. If you have a soar throat that you want to fix fast, get a glass of warm water and fill it with salt, then gargle the entire glass. For food purposes, chicken noodle soup always, always hits the spot, no matter what. I also recommend adding some saltine crackers in the soup, accompanied by ginger ale because sometimes the “yucky stuff” can give you a stomachache as well.
This last one has been passed down in my family and is an old, Italian trade secret. Invest in a bottle of Vicks vapor rub and don’t just put it on your nose, but put it on your upper chest and … your feet. Yes, I know this may seem a bit unconventional, but it works. After rubbing Vicks on your feet, cover them with plain, white cotton socks. By the morning, the Vicks should be gone and you should feel a lot better. Everyone do campus a favor and follow this advice, it will work and will help us all.
GUEST BLOGGER: McKENZIE TAVELLA, ’18 My name is Mckenzie Tavella and I am from Fairfield, Connecticut. I am a sophomore... MORE
GUEST BLOGGER: SHANE QUINN, ’15
Hello! My name is Shane Quinn. I am a Grad Student from Waterford, Ireland. I am currently studying in order to attain my masters in counseling here at Providence College. I was part of the PC class of 2015, studying psychology as an undergraduate. I am a GA in the Office of Academic Services, providing academic support to students. I am starting my 5th year competing for our famous track team and will be competing in the 2016 indoor & outdoor track seasons. I enjoy soccer, TV and movies. Most of all, I enjoy just lounging around watching all three, regaining my strength before having to go run around in circles! Check in with me at PC Smartypants for tips to academic success.
Many people decide that they will partake in some sort of exercise on a particular day. Unfortunately, with regards to going to the gym, going for a run, doing yoga or playing some ball, it is not the thought that counts!
We have all heard of people moaning about going to the gym, and we have all been that person who moans about going to the gym. Two excuses that you will commonly hear are: “I’m too tired to go to the gym” or “I don’t have enough time to go to the gym”. Occasionally, both are true. However, most of the time exercise can help with these problems.
According to researchers at the University of Bristol, employees who exercised before work or during lunch were better able to handle the day’s demands. General attitude and mood also improved. 72% of workers reported improvements in time management, 79% said mental and interpersonal performance increased and 74% said they managed their workload better. If exercise improves all of these aspects of your hectic college life, you can help create more free time! Going to the gym or going for a run can help turn what people consider 4 hours of study into 2-3 hours of your time. Being a current student athlete, I know for a fact that on my running days I can get much more done, as opposed to those few days that I don’t run!
I know from experience that exercise can help your workload in 5 specific ways: It can pump you, increase your confidence, increase your capacity to learn as well as building your momentum to be able to accomplish more throughout the day. It is a busy few weeks ahead here at Friartown, hopefully this post will encourage you to actively seek out exercising to help your motivation!
GUEST BLOGGER: SHANE QUINN, ’15 Hello! My name is Shane Quinn. I am a Grad Student from Waterford, Ireland. I... MORE